My new hair reduce for 2017

I entered 2017 with a number of modifications sitting on my lap. I wrote my first ebook and have become an writer (purchase it right here). Then Leèroy requested me to marry him and we obtained engaged (no, that’s not his actual title). Then I instantly began planning our marriage ceremony. Then he stated let’s transfer again to Baltimore. My 2017 was spent adjusting to one thing. Which felt like I used to be adjusting to every little thing. When This autumn rolled in, I considered what I needed my targets for 2018 to be. For some purpose, my hair and what to do with it saved developing. Chopping my hair was looming on the horizon and it was time for me to take some motion.

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Again in 2012, I made a decision to go pure (like everybody else). In full transparency, it was only a factor I believed I used to be imagined to do. Wanting again I’m not even positive if I had any actual causes for becoming a member of the pure hair motion. I by no means cared to see my actual curls and as soon as I did I completely hated them. Earlier than I went pure I used to be solely stress-free my hair about each 5 or 6 months. Which was mainly initially of every season.

The primary few months of being pure had been absolute torture. I used all of the milks, lotions, mousses and oils that I may discover only for my curls to by no means actually curl all the way in which. Be mindful this was earlier than the large blogs and the limitless articles on what to do together with your curls. It was proper initially of the pure hair motion.

After creating my personal ineffective curl refreshing spray concoctions and many wasted hair merchandise, I lastly realized that I didn’t have “wash and go” hair. I didn’t have the form of curl that’s wildly celebrated within the pure hair group. And honey that’s one other subject I’ll sort out later.

My stylist on the time prompt that I rod set my hair to get that desired look. Genius! I lastly obtained the curls I desired. However that meant I used to be rolling up my hair each night time. Be mindful that is earlier than the flowery large bonnets and different superb creations that saved your curls plump and juicy all through the night time. However what I bear in mind most was that regardless of all that work I had achieved to my hair I felt very not attractive! I’ve by no means embraced my pure gray curls. I’m undecided if I ever will. Doesn’t liking one thing imply that I’m not embracing it? Can’t I simply not prefer it and transfer one?

In any case,! I’m additionally fairly positive I don’t care when you’ve got an opinion about whether or not my hair is pure or relaxed.

Then I obtained a chance that mainly catapulted my running a blog and writing profession. Stacy London (TLC’s What Not To Put on) was in search of “actual” fashions for her ebook The Fact About Model.data-imagelightbox=”g”> I utilized by way of electronic mail and growth… I used to be chosen (learn that story right here, right here, and right here!)! My makeover look was a mohawk (see image above). However like the actual form of Mohawk. To start with, it was fly, revolutionary, edgy and actually give me a signature look. Granted it was cute and all however I ultimately obtained uninterested in it.

So I began to develop my hair out however left one aspect nonetheless shaved. That grew to become what lots of you recognize as my signature fashion. I prefer to assume that I could have even influenced just a few women to “partially” shave their heads. Years later, I seen that I didn’t have the identical love for the shaved aspect that I did once I first reduce it. It was virtually as if I used to be ashamed of it. I virtually by no means confirmed that aspect of my hair to the purpose the place many forgot it was nonetheless a factor. I lastly stated let me simply develop that aspect out too.

That was laborious AF to do. The primary aspect was too simple. I simply swooped the lengthy aspect of my hair over the wild and unruly develop out and saved it shifting. A yr later my hair caught up and that’s once I reduce my hair right into a bob.

I attempted to do the identical for the second aspect of the fashion however the odds weren’t in my favor. After I tried swooping the hair over it appeared like I used to be hiding an enormous bald spot. I attempted pinning it and failed. I attempted placing gel on. I put Jam on it. Nothing! So now I’m depressing. I hate my hair.

However as a result of I used to be planning my marriage ceremony and I used to be instructed by everybody to not make any drastic modifications until I plan to shed weight. Getting skinny was the one change that was inspired and acceptable (I’ll write about that silly shit later). So I listened to everybody and sucked it up.

I chatted with my stylist (Gabrielle Corney) and our greatest resolution for operation “UnHate My Hair” was to chop it in order that it was close to the identical size all through my hair. So I spent all summer time saving hair inspo from The Reduce Life. I stated that after my marriage ceremony I might let that aspect develop out to the place it was lengthy sufficient to twist or pinch after which I might have Gabi reduce it.

My hair grows fairly quick so in about four weeks time I had sufficient to pinch. However then one thing occurred that irked my total soul. As my hair began to develop out my untouched pure pinches of hair obtained actually curly and wiry. Eight years later and my hair on the aspect is principally gray. UGH!

So now I’m again to contemporary pure hair… midway by way of. And to be trustworthy, it’s simply not the life I needed to reside. I actually had a head stuffed with pressed hair and a patch of 3C (ish) curls.

I gave myself two extra months of recent progress and stated to Gabi, “Let’s do that lady” (Y’all keep in mind that Martin episode).

I saved tons of images on Instagram for inspo. As I discussed earlier than they’re all primarily from The Reduce Life. I had pics of brief brief, brief lengthy, brief pixie… you title it I had it saved. I did a ballot on my IG Tales and together with your assist, we ended up utilizing this fashion as a information.

A whole lot of you’ve gotten requested if I relaxed my hair. The reply is YES and right here’s why.

Each time somebody would discourage me I’d say, “I don’t should battle if I don’t wish to”. The underside line is, my pure hair journey has been an entire battle. And perhaps it’s not the 4C battle we’re used to speaking about or seeing nevertheless it was nonetheless my model of battle. I ain’t obtained to undergo it no extra! That life just isn’t for me. I gained’t say that I’ll by no means be pure once more. Who is aware of! I gained’t say that I’ll by no means need my curls again. Who is aware of! However what I do know for positive (proper now) is that with no full head of hair I’ve no plans to put on my naturally curly gray hair.

With all that stated and completely thought by way of, I had some choices to make. Do I combat the world to maintain my hair straight? Whereas my hair was sorta warmth educated, one lengthy gust of sizzling air actually blows my straight haired goals away (pun meant). I believed concerning the effort it could take to maintain this brief aspect straight and that additional solidified my resolution.

Then I requested myself who am I pure for. You or me?

I can admit to you and myself that I went pure to affix a development. Not as a result of my hair was breaking off or in order that my hair may very well be wholesome(er). My hair will all the time be wholesome as a result of I care for it. So sure, I obtained a relaxer.

On the finish of the day, I really feel like a brand new lady–which was my important objective heading into 2018. My record of targets are LIT and I didn’t wish to go into 2018 worrying about my hair and what it was doing. I am keen on this reduce and now (peep this)… I won’t let it develop out.

Did you guys do something drastic to finish your 2017? What are you 2018 targets?

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